So it started when my son was around three... then is when the repetitive games started. He would literally sit down in a corner for hours and rock his cars back and forth...Well, that did not really bother me as every child is unique you know so I just kinda let if flow. Soon after that he stopped talking. He went from trying to communicate to just not caring about it. Not even eye contact. Then the temper tantrums began. Bad ones. Yelling, kicking, scratching, head banging... And I was thinking what is going on? But as I had a history of being a bad tempered child I honestly thought I was going through what my own mom went through while raising me. Yep... Karma can be a bitch and I thought it was this. But I could not be more wrong.
I got my wake up call a few weeks ago. It doesnt really matter how it happened really, the truth is it was not the first time, but this time I had to pay attention. There are bad tempered kids, and these ones usually react to authority well shown. And there are Autistic kids, who do not understand why they have to obey a rule that makes no sense to them. Just because I say no is not an answer they will accept and for them, its disrespectful and they hurt. You have to understand that they know more than what you think they do and most of them, if not all, are more mature than any kid their age (some of them are even more mature than what you are) And they see you in front of them as a parent but they feel you are not understanding what they are feeling or going through in that precise moment. So they shut off the world and do what they know to calm themselves down... A variety of behaviours but all of them just not logical or understandable under our logic and that is because, we do not think as they do. We do not see the world as they do. Imagine yourself living in a world full of individuals who just do not understand you at all. A world full of rules and things you have to do because you have to and most of them make no sense. A world where you are just too bright and yet misunderstood. A world full of rules you have to obey because someone else said you have to. I know now. I would shut myself off. I would stop talking. I would rather live in my own world as the outside one just does not make sense. And this is why we need to be understanding and patient. We need to start looking at the bright side and see them as an opportunity to change the perception of the perfect society. Its not about all of us being the same, but embrace the ones who are different and give them the chance to adapt. No more labels. No more pitty. They are just different. And that is not bad at all!!!
